Nov 19 2009
Reflections for My Mirror, Consulting Skills: #5 – Power of the Circle
The weeks are flying by and I am trying to keep up my pace. I know the whole class chimes in week after week that we can’t believe the semester is almost over, but I really can’t. The past few weeks have been very empowering, and have reminded me why I was drawn to this program in the first place.
This past Monday we were led through a facilitation on engagement and implementation. A large part of the facilitation was spent in a circle, literally. I never really grasped the power of a circle until I became an Adult Learning student. This one particular circle the other night was not only engaging, but also a breath of fresh air. We spent the last half of the class, in this circle, going around and saying positive things about each individual. It was truly a powerful exercise and we all left feeling a little bit better about ourselves.
I started thinking after class about the power of a circle in my workplace and with our client. The setup at my workplace is fairly standard: stadium seating lecture halls, long and narrow conference rooms, and in most offices the desk separates the individuals. I think it takes certain people, and in my case faculty, who appreciate the power of a circular table. One of our periodontics faculty members has a circular table in his office, and he’s adamant that when we have a meeting in his office, we sit around that table. I didn’t realize until I started thinking about the power in a circle, but he gets it! It makes such a difference speaking with him around this space as opposed to across his desk. I believe a lot of this falls back on the individuals character, because it would be just as easy for me to speak with him across the desk; however he appreciates what I do and listens when I have questions, so this is his way of showing me that he cares – that during that meeting, we aren’t separated by numerous hierarchical levels.
As far as the power of the circle with our client, I think the same situation exists. From day one, and from our initial contracting meeting, our style with her was quite casual. We met at a local coffee shop and exchanged ideas, but this worked for us. With some consultants’ and clients’ this may not work as well, but in our case, we knew we could accomplish even more if the relationship was open. As a matter of fact, during our feedback meeting the other day we sat with our client at a circle table. It’s so easy and comfortable for conversation to flow this way, and what I appreciate is how it’s almost impossible to not look at each person you are talking to.
The power of the circle, and the power of the dialogue and engagement that takes place within that circle is huge. I think if we all sat around a circle more often, during our meetings, seminars, lectures, and simple conversations, we would learn a lot more about the people we are interacting and engaging with.
